As humans we like to fix things. Or to get new things to replace the things that don’t work the way we’d like them to.
Sometimes, we think we can fix other people too.
This can be motivated by selfishness – such as when we want others to fit a mold based on our personal preferences and ideals, or when we want people to stop doing something just because it annoys us. Other times, it’s motivated by love. We may truly believe that it will benefit others if they do things differently.
But even when we have the best of intentions, we can often hurt rather than help others through the way we expect them to change. Continue reading