Here’s a statement that I read recently that made me think twice. Originally it was addressed to single Christian women. But a similar statement could be posed to the single brothers.
“Do you want to get married, or do you want to be a wife?”
Both questions seem one and the same–resulting in the same wedding ceremony and marriage. But it’s the second that makes us think about our attitude going into marriage. Is it self, or is it service? Is it passive reception, or active giving?
And after a little bit of thought–what about Christ and his church? Are we just smug on being betrothed to Him? Or are we willing to be a wife?
“My people are destroyed for lack of knowledge..”
(Says the Lord – Hosea 4:6)
For so long now, it is a plain fact that youths in our church have been in some sense destroyed on an emotional level due to their lack of knowledge when it comes to boy/girl relationships. On so many occasions, God has had to witness His children getting hurt and surely something isn’t quite right here. Many of my friends (and myself, I’ll admit) have been affected by this phenomenon and I have a feeling it has sadly become a norm within the church. It is, however, a problem we can do something about. I don’t believe people generally set out to hurt each other intentionally; sometimes it’s just a matter of understanding what God says concerning this issue. Now, I’m not saying that my take on relationships is better than yours (whatever yours is), but maybe there are other ways of dealing with this and it sure can’t hurt to look at it from another perspective, right? Bearing in mind, “Everything is permissible for me – but not everything is beneficial.” (1 Corinthians 6:12).
Actually a lot of my convictions are already neatly and specifically summed up in the book I Kissed Dating Goodbye, by Joshua Harris. (Yeah corny title but recommended reading). For those of you who have not read it, here are some brief points that might help you realign your attitude towards girl/guy relationships for the good of all parties and ultimately for God’s glory. Continue reading